My last two blogs focused on the real life issues that many pastoral families are facing.
Real Pastors Don’t Have Problems…
Satan whispers to pastors that if they were more dedicated, deeper spiritually, a better person, etc. they wouldn’t have real life issues. This keeps them on the punitive treadmill of trying to resolve difficult issues without gifted and concerned counselors to help them. They fear revealing their need for help to other pastors, deacons, or associational staff, not knowing if outsiders can be trusted. How do we minister to the minister who needs help, when they fear trusting anyone?
While fear is a real factor to overcome, the cost of counseling is a barrier as well. Counseling is normally a process of 5 to 10 sessions to assess the relational issues in play. When the pastor’s finances are stressed to the maximum there simply isn’t any money left for counseling services even though it will be very expensive to the family, in every way, to not invest in it at their moment of need.
I want to share what our association is planning to launch in 2017 for every member church pastor and their family to address these issues.
Lower the Cost Barrier for Every Pastor’s Family
CCBA is partnering with multiple Christian family counselors across our region, in multiple languages to be a resource to every pastor’s family. We are seeking to lower costs for our member churches to get this help. The Christian counselors I have met with have a big heart for this ministry and have discussed special conferences for ministry issues, ministry wives and helping our churches provide quality marriage and family seminars for their communities. Costs will not be a barrier for our pastor’s families to get quality care.
Raise the Privacy Barrier
We have negotiated with these counseling firms and have made it clear that the privacy of the pastor and his family is our highest value. They will bill us for some of the cost of the sessions but we will only know who the counselor was, the type of session i.e. single, family, marriage, etc.) and the number of sessions conducted. We have chosen not to know who was counseled. We want to remove the fear barrier and allow the pastor and his family to feel safe in sharing the reality of their present situation with caring Christian counselors.
We Are in This Together
We are using the gifts that our member churches contribute to the association to fund this initiative. Every church can rejoice that their gifts are helping support every pastor, from the biggest church to the smallest church, in the inner city to the outer suburbs. We are in this together! All of this is a part of a new focus for Central Coast Baptist Association as we invest in our churches, families and staff so they might enjoy the full blessing of God as they live and serve in their community. I give thanks to our 2016 Executive Board who helped make and guide these pivotal decisions to invest in what matters most. Please attend our upcoming special events for CCBA churches to receive the full presentation.
Register Now for:
Pastors and Wives Appreciation Banquet Oct. 14
Annual Missions Conference Oct. 15
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